Most of us have been brought up with the concept of “give and take” and taught that “giving is better than receiving”. Did we ever figure out that this does not stack up?
For every giver there must be a receiver, so both are required for a balanced exchange. Or have all the nice people only been giving to those few people who were prepared to take, and the takers were not very nice people anyway?
And have you ever been given something, and then feel there is obligation to give something back? Have you noticed how different it feels when something is given to you, or when you are giving something, from that space of obligation instead of from a space of joy and just for the pleasure of it?
Not surprising then, that so many people find it hard to just receive, like it is not something acceptable in our current society.
Have you ever been told when you were little, things like: “Give that toy back!” or “Give Auntie a kiss!”, “It’s rude to take…”, “He/she is a taker…” , and many more variation on these themes. Since discovering Access Consciousness I have chosen to say “gift and receive” instead of “give and take”. That feels so much lighter to me, removing all connotations of the unpleasantness of taking. And yet that still leaves some confusion over receiving.
Since discovering Access Consciousness I have learnt to say “gift and receive” instead of “give and take”. That feels so much lighter to me, removing all connotations of the unpleasantness of taking. And yet that still leaves some confusion over receiving.
Last week during a class, I suggested that all they had to do during a Bars session was simply to receive, not think, pray, meditate or whatever, just plain receiving. One of the participants closed her eyes and opened up her palms heavenward with a look of studied concentration on her face. That was her idea of receiving. Hmmm…
What would it take instead to receive anything effortlessly, like we receive the air we breathe, like we receive the warmth of the sun on our skin, the smell of a flower? Do we agonise over whether we deserve the air we breathe? No, we just receive it, naturally.
The Universe is always gifting to us, when we are willing to receive. Look at animals: they are always ready to receive, with no judgements, no complications.
What would it be like if all of us were to receive from anything in the Universe in that same effortless way?
Would you now be willing to effortlessly receive whatever abundance, ease and joy is constantly being gifted to you?
Just allow yourself the gift of receiving, and remember the attitude of gratitude!